At some point in our lives, all of us embark on a quest for meaning. Everyone approaches this journey in a different way. For some, it begins in a temple, church, or mosque, where, for others, it starts with an unforgettable quote from a book or movie. But for many the road to spirituality is made clear by experiencing a terrible loss.
The powerful poet, Mary Oliver, once said, “Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” In other words, all of the emotions, even the most difficult ones, have a purpose. And it is a growing belief that one of the greatest reasons for grief, is that it brings us closer to Spirit.
Science tells us that when we grieve, we go through several stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and acceptance. And, as anyone who has lost someone knows, these stages are not linear. We can weave in and out of them, sometimes for years, before we find true relief. But, perhaps we should add a new phase of grief: Meaning. Because there is no time in our lives when we feel the need to connect with something greater than ourselves than when we are grieving a significant loss.
For many people, a new-found belief in the spiritual world is what emerges out of the grief process. People suddenly find themselves believing that life does not end with death, or that energy is a real entity. It is a beautiful consequence of a terrible event, and it is precisely this paradoxical nature of things that people come to understand while expanding their spiritual selves.
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